Parents are essential in youth ministry.
This isn’t an earth-shattering statement or revelation, and really it isn’t meant to be at all. The youth director, volunteers, and entire student ministry program is created as a tool to walk alongside of parents and families to assist in the development of our students into authentic Christ-followers. It is a family-centric ministry; and when it is functioning properly, it ministers to the family as a whole!
With that being said, however, the youth group isn’t a silver-bullet to solve all the problems of a teenager, it is merely another outlet for them to sound their feelings (during the appropriate small group or one-on-one times), think through their faith, and be challenged to live the Christian life.
Author Doug Fields states, “…Parents are the primary influencers in students’ lives” (emphasis added). Youth ministry is not meant to operate without this parental influence; but again, it functions best when both the program and the parents are in unison moving towards “training a child in the way he should go”.
The relationship between parents and the ministry is one where they play off of one another for the maximum eternal impact on the teenager.
We are committed to making sure that students know that their parents are important and are the major influence in their lives. God doesn’t make mistakes when he places us in our earthly families, no matter what the circumstances (yes, we ALL have a crazy relative of some sort). It is just another tool that He uses to draw us closer to Himself.
We are also committed to coming alongside of parents as they raise their students to equip and guide them as best as we can through prayer, Godly counsel, and pointing them to other resources when necessary.
It is a blessing to be a parent – the Bible says in Psalm 127, “Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him.” I’m sure there are days it doesn’t feel like a reward, especially from age 12 to 18! However, God has given you a great blessing!
That’s why, as part of our “Home Grace” series as a church, Student Life will also be doing a family series entitled, “The Fighter,” beginning on Wednesday, September 9th, from 6:30 to 8:00 pm at City Church (1010 E. Rio Road, Charlottesville, VA).
“The Fighter” – Interesting name for a series on family, I know! This is a series created by Orange and is meant to teach kids to be the one to fight for the relationships in their family even when they get difficult, to fight to be the one who will honor their father and mother at all times, and to fight to accept their siblings no matter the circumstances.
We’re looking forward to having your student join us for this series and to serving your family through it!